tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9022094815105915714.post4634683157983028494..comments2023-06-27T04:39:05.031-06:00Comments on finding my forever: Who do you spend your time with?Abbeyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02948297262692781527noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9022094815105915714.post-34279917497519212542014-04-09T10:53:01.180-06:002014-04-09T10:53:01.180-06:00Reading your blog from Tam's link up. I'm ...Reading your blog from Tam's link up. I'm in the same boat as everyone else it seems. It's something I haven't really dealt with, either, and I'm not quite sure how to, without have a full out confrontation. Ugh, I hate confrontation.Amanda Arrhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13624922078424219608noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9022094815105915714.post-41347926491305221322014-04-05T21:22:07.207-06:002014-04-05T21:22:07.207-06:00I know exactly what you mean. I had a friend like...I know exactly what you mean. I had a friend like that in college and after YEARS of painful conversations and hurt feelings, we just drifted apart. I always pictured her at my wedding too, so it was really sad at first. But now that I'm three years removed from the situation, I can see it was for the best. Good luck!Laura Darlinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05817637305623694718noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9022094815105915714.post-25793223227129610422014-04-04T15:45:08.622-06:002014-04-04T15:45:08.622-06:00I can totally relate to all of this (and everyone ...I can totally relate to all of this (and everyone else who commented! Who knew so many of us had such big friendship issues?!) <br /><br />I have a "friend" who I recently reconnected with because she was going through a really rough time and I was genuinely concerned for her safety. We started getting closer and then she uses our conversation to intentionally hurt her ex, who is friends with my husband and I was just appalled. <br /><br />I mean, she intentionally hurt someone she once loved and she used me to do it, I've really been struggling with and her - this is not hte first time, so I had to cut her off. And I really hate it, because I like her. I just don't like her actions. And that's confusing. And so are friendships. I think in the long run when I look back in say, 10 years, I'll be grateful for sticking to my guns but for now, it just sucks. <br /><br />So maybe look at it like that - do you think this person can add substance to your life when you look back in 10 years or will it just be 10 more years of crap? Will you be okay with that? Tamarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18410011779090085342noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9022094815105915714.post-23005952377716515872014-04-03T11:37:08.989-06:002014-04-03T11:37:08.989-06:00I have been going through this as well and it come...I have been going through this as well and it comes down to this for me: why am I killing myself to be friends with someone so that I can have an anxious/crummy time? I also feel like I can't be totally open and honest around said person so...what is the point? In my situation, Ive decided to put self-care first. I feel bad for their feelings (because I can be a people pleaser to an extent, mostly due to upbringing) but I'm trying to exercise my "selfish" muscle. Because sometimes you need to! Ink Stained Pagehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03812754420016856851noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9022094815105915714.post-55733196820076423402014-04-03T07:42:16.989-06:002014-04-03T07:42:16.989-06:00I have one of my "best" friends who isn&...I have one of my "best" friends who isn't always the best. It's not so much that she's toxic, but it's more of a... she's an only child and acts like one. (Which isn't against other only children! She just fits the stereotype!) It's so frustrating, but it's not something worthy of ending a friendship. But recently... things got even worse, and it's just like.. arlkgjalrjglajrng. Ya know?<br /><br />I completely agree with Shauna though! Sometimes, you just have to go with your gut on things like this. <br />I will also add this: I also hate giving up on people, but is that really what you're doing in this situation? It's not as if you are giving up on him/her, you're just acknowledging that it's not working. Just because that friendship doesn't work does NOT mean you're giving up. (in my opinion, at least.) It just means you want to focus on the things that make you better. <br /><br />I guess my point is.. if you feel that this person will continue to bring you down, maybe you should just quietly move on. If this person truly values the friendship, let her work for it a little.Katehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10055889629743484940noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9022094815105915714.post-8792481690742981362014-04-02T21:03:39.162-06:002014-04-02T21:03:39.162-06:00This. All of this. I'm having some serious fri...This. All of this. I'm having some serious friendship feelings right now and this hit the nail on the head! I don't really have any advice seeing as I'm going through the same thing, but I'm here for you if you wanna talk <3Gennahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13497325332420589777noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9022094815105915714.post-13513846365295582002014-04-02T16:26:35.197-06:002014-04-02T16:26:35.197-06:00Yup. My oldest friend, my "best friend"...Yup. My oldest friend, my "best friend", although we haven't been real friends like that in years. She's been a toxic frienemy type friend almost since day 1, but since we're such old friends (and have had lots of great times over the years!) and are part of a bigger group of friends from junior high, I've always had trouble removing myself from her. But I've been trying really hard the last few months! I think you just have to listen to your gut about how this person makes you feel and how they effect your emotional and mental state!Shaunahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03594427573751817738noreply@blogger.com