But it is engagement season, so I had a question for you all....
Do you expect/want your future someone to ask your parents' (or uncle's, or grandfather's, or brother's) permission before proposing? Or, alternately, did your someone ask? Or, even more alternately, does this custom baffle you like it does me?
|My dad does seem rather intimidating, no?|
I'm not against it. But I do think it's an odd custom, nowadays. I've talked to my parents because the whole thing confuses me so. Independent, feminist me says "No one owns me and has permission to give me away or take me or own me, dang it!" Neither my parents, nor I, have any expectations of my future husband asking their permission.
But I wouldn't be offended.
It all just confuses me.
The weird thing is, I have seen a split -- either people never even thought about it, think it's a crazy old custom, or they absolutely expect it. And these categories cross region and religion. I've heard of people on both coasts (and in between) and of all religions asking for permission.
So it doesn't seem to be a Christian thing or a Southern thing -- although those two groups might be more apt to ask for permission.
Anyone have any thoughts on the matter? Do you want your someone to ask permission to ask for your hand?
Edited to add: I realized I can't respond to comments in the comment section? Don't know how to fix that. But I think a big difference I was missing is permission vs blessing. Hope this post wasn't offensive to any -- seriously just wanted to hear everyone's thoughts about it! xoxo